I’m a day late, but I’m getting the self-discovery journey underway. I am using some self-discovery prompts to start my writing, but using a randomizer to answer them in a different order. If you would like to answer these questions yourself, I have included them at the bottom of this post and every time I answer a question.
Today’s question (number 13): What advice would I give to my younger self? (Do I follow this advice now?)
This is a severely loaded question. When I really put my thinking cap on, I come up with two answers. Love yourself and everything is temporary. These are two things I can honestly say that I do follow now and I wish that my younger self would have learned to do a little more. These two things encompass everything I stand for and everything I am. Living with a mental illness makes these principals even more important. Love yourself and everything is temporary should be my life mantras on a daily basis.
Love yourself. There is no one else like you. Everything you experience in life makes you, you. Sometimes, you may need the love for yourself when it feels like no one else does. You can only control yourself, so be comfortable with you. Oddly enough, others will become more comfortable with you too. I wish my younger self would have embraced this more. I spent so much time hating myself and denying myself the love I really needed to take care of myself. I went undiagnosed with bipolar disorder for years because I was ashamed and afraid of medicine. I can honestly say now that I love myself more than ever and in return, I understand myself so much more. Sure, living with a mental illness is challenging but loving yourself makes the journey worth it.
Everything in life is temporary. This is actually a Buddhist principle and it can help anyone through difficult times. Yes, we want the good times in our life to last forever, but it is not possible to hold onto the good and let go of the bad. To really survive this life, one has to be aware that EVERYTHING is temporary – the good, the bad, and the ugly. This will come back to loving yourself. We our the only ones guaranteed to be with us for all our lives, and unfortunately even our existence is limited. We ourselves are temporary. This means we should focus on the now, leaving less room for the past and a sliver of hope for the future.
Both of these things give me a sense of control. The let me know I am lovable even when I’m at my worst. It makes me realize I can survive anything because everything is temporary. “This too shall pass.” Every time I go through something difficult or fall into a pit of despair, I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that I will make it. Embracing who I am and loving myself makes those moments of despair a lot briefer because I have something to fight for and knowing that it is temporary makes it bearable.
Love yourself and remember everything in life is temporary. Simple rules to life that would have saved me a lot of headache and heartache when I was younger.
You want to ask yourself some tough questions, here are the questions I’m using: